Dorrier Underwood

I had been working with Joe, executive of an outdoor education adventure company for teenagers and their families, for about 6 months in an executive coaching engagement, meeting one on one about every 2 weeks and some email back and forth. We loved working together and working on his being a great leader, listening to parents’ concerns, raising money from donors who are looking for how to make a difference with family money or with their corporation’s philanthropy. While Joe complained about one of his staff over and over, I listened and wondered what am I going to say to cause a positive and useful shift in his thinking. At first I thought well she must be a real problem so I asked a few questions and couldn’t see what he was saying was the problem, the way she put things, the way she went on and on, the way she interrupted, the way she never made her point which were some of my pet peeves.  Not those things, just bothered by her thinking style, her presentation style